Everyone has a marigold in their life, they are like a persistent glow of sunshine, sparkling your life with light and support. They are the ones who push you to the maximum, support and celebrate you in every little and big achievement, grow beside you and transform you into the best version of yourself. Most importantly, these people are like marigolds, they do all of this without competition.A plant grows beautifully when watered well, provided space, provided fresh air and sunlight but for its protection from pests, they need something that protects it like a shell. Marigolds are those protectors that boost the plant’s growth and enhance the quality of the soil.
What is the Marigold Theory
They are the marigolds that don’t just help others but also help themselves by creating a healthy environment to grow.
Through all the tales as old as time, humans have competed with each other. For power, status, love and money, diving deep into the negative emotions of jealousy, envy and hatred. In the end, it has caused destruction for both sides, leaving much less to win and more lost. But if all these tales were flipped and transformed into stories of support, friendship and love, then the world as it is today would be different, larger and much happier.Even today, comparison is the killer of joy. From social media followers to professional careers, we are still rooting for a life or love like another, even if they are our closest friends. In this situation, everyone is with each other for a cause, a benefit and not just the fact that they are a good person and your friend.But amidst all this pessimism and rivalry that make things blurry, you end up finding people who are rare, who help you bloom and rise through all the fog. They are there in your life just for you, they support you, provide a non-judgmental space to exist and hold you when you fall down. At times, such people often go overlooked in life but they are the most important of them all. They do not view their friendships as competitions or success as pushing everyone and moving ahead. They watch success and friendships as something that goes hand in hand.They are the marigolds that don’t just help others but also help themselves by creating a healthy environment to grow. They are clear about their role and motive, their boundaries and actions and their support is unconditional and voluntary.Interestingly, this does not mean that they are entirely a sweet packet of happiness. They challenge you as well, point out your mistakes and help you grow even when you don’t feel like it. Even when you are scared to move ahead, they redirect you onto the right path, they understand you and your fears deeply and want to make sure you become the version of yourself you keep dreaming about.
How to recognise a marigold?
Around them, you feel emotionally safe, you can be unfiltered, unpolished, still you.
People who are marigolds in others’ lives share some quiet signatures:
- They celebrate your wins without a trace of jealousy.
- They offer comfort without asking anything in return.
- Around them, you feel emotionally safe, you can be unfiltered, unpolished, still you.
- They help you become a better you, not a version of you that suits them.
It is important to remember that in the garden of your life, you will also have weeds. The ones who drain your energy, spread negativity and make you question yourself. You’ll recognise them the same way you recognise your marigolds, not by title, but by how you feel after being around them. Heavy instead of light. Smaller instead of steadier. Here, it is vital to become aware and create boundaries where needed.In the end, you should also try to become a marigold yourself. The support, the goodness, the love that you receive, try to share it with others too. Be the person who doesn’t let negativity linger near someone you love, celebrate a win that isn’t yours without a flicker of envy and offer quiet support before it’s asked for. After all, that’s how a marigold grows in the soil; it offers all the qualities first and gets them in return.
